I think about this a lot and now I’d like to write about it. You may already know this at this point in your life but I’d like to let you know that not everyone can be a boss bitch, and that’s okay.
It takes a lot of work to be a boss bitch and it exhausts and terrifies me to even think about it. You need resources and before you even have the resources you need to ferret out those resources and then cultivate and grow your relationship with them. That kind of work can take days or months or even years.
Any successful boss bitch you speak to will tell you the tale of how they became successful. This tale always involves hundreds, sometimes THOUSANDS of moments of failure leading up to that success. It takes tenacity, perseverance, mental toughness…all the things I definitely do not have. Just imagining having to deal with that many failures and rejections and issues and come out on the other side makes me want to barf.
There’s also the fact that failures and rejections and issues continue EVEN AFTER the success comes. It’s a constant, daily battle to remain a boss bitch. There’s no resting on one’s laurels. It involves continuous evolution, revolution, nuclear fusion.
I’m ready for a nap just imagining one day in a boss bitch life.
I like to surround myself with strong, smart, confident women because they inspire me, but also because I feel like I don’t want to be the boss. I want them to be the boss. Please give me something to do and I’ll follow you. I’ll cheer for your achievements, support your business, provide daily affirmations. I love what you’re doing! You’re doing great!
I’m too lazy and prone to extreme stress to do what you’re doing and that’s okay. Because not everyone can be the boss. It’s not the way it works. The concept of “boss” inherently includes that there must also be folks to be “bossed.”
I have willingly and gladly accepted my position as one of The Bossed.
When I worked in production it was always about the “hustle” and being a “rockstar.” And like, I bought into it maybe for a couple of years. But then I realized, it’s too stressful for me to constantly be operating like this, so I don’t have to do it.
I don’t have to! You don’t have to either! You can let it go if you don’t want to do it, it’s okay. Like yes, continue doing your job and working hard and contributing to the world. But there is NO REASON to feel lame because you didn’t become the boss bitch that all of the books told you that you would be.
Our generation of women was misled into believing that we could do and have everything we wanted. We could have it all! We should all be girl bosses! We were raised and trained and brainwashed into thinking that it would be so!
And it was not so. Not for all of us. And a ton of think-pieces and essays and blog posts and tweets have fully explored that part of it. So I’m not going to. But I WILL say that it was hard to accept that it was not so, for a time. Maybe like, a couple of years.
But then, BUT THEN, one day I realized that I don’t HAVE to be a “boss bitch” or a “girl boss” or “hustler” or “rockstar.” NO ONE IS MAKING ME. And I don’t have to feel bad for not making myself do it. Because it doesn’t matter. All that matters is if I feel good about who I am and what I’m doing and what I contribute to the world. And I do!
Boss bitches: I salute you. I’m here for you, I cheer for you! I will execute any call to action you request of me, as long as you’re not mean. I know “meanness” is subjective, but meanness I WILL NOT STAND FOR.
I’ll await further instructions.